This is the twelfth in a series of what traits to look for in a life mate. While the following sets a high standard, one that perhaps few will initially reach, each area identified is an important character trait to look for and inquire about as you consider a lifelong marriage partner.
12. Is this person walking in high moral character, purity and integrity (continued)? Does this person exhibit any questionable behavior or tendencies toward lying, exaggerating or story telling? Are there any unexplained or irrational behaviors that he/she or you excuse? Is his/her character ever called into question? Is this person forthright, open and honest with you even if it makes him/her look bad? What does integrity mean to this person? Does it mean more than looking good in the sight of others? Does he/she hold a biblical view of purity and holiness and is their definition of purity holiness the same as yours? (Galatians 1:10; Proverbs 10:9, 11:3, 12:22)
Integrity means telling the truth 100% of the time. Jesus never lied and He desires us to follow His example of integrity. I have a friend who at one time worked at a department store customer service counter and he said he caught people in lies all the time. Every day our courts have persons take an oath to tell the truth and then speak falsely on the witness stand. Truth telling is a value that will stand the test of time in a relationship. When we do lie, we will soon discover that another lie will be needed to cover the first one. The Lord detests lying lips, but delights in the truth. (Proverbs 12:22) Are you speaking the truth in your relationship and are you hearing the truth?
Money has a way of showing the depth of our character. Treasures expose the heart of a man or woman. Financial values are exposed in our giving, our sowing, in paying our bills, in our business affairs and transactions. The scriptures are clear when it says that we will never be able to handle spiritual wealth if we cannot be faithful with a little worldly wealth. Is this person honest in all of their financial dealings? If they are bragging about getting away with something now, it will continue with increase. Integrity must be deeper than simply gaining riches. A stingy man is eager to get rich and is unaware that poverty awaits him. (Proverbs 28:22)