Brief thoughts leading up to the celebration of Christ’s birth.

Jesus Christ, Son of God, and Savior came to earth wrapped in a swaddling cloth and placed in an animal feeding trough. This Jesus would usher in the New Covenant, a new relationship between God and man. During His earthly stay, He would declare the love of God, His Father, to the world, heal the sick, cast out demonic presence, turn tables upside down, speak of His home in heaven and confront the religious spirits of His day. 

All over the world Christians will gather and celebrate this historical fact. And the one thing His presence always brings is unity, no matter the ethnic or cultural background. His plan would bring hope to all the world, every nation and every people group. For there is neither Jew nor Greek, male nor female as we are all one in Christ. (Galatians 3:28) 

For the first time in all of history, salvation would come to everyone! 

This is Christmas; this is the greatest hope and the greatest story for all the world! 

We’re all looking for ways to stay married. Whenever you hear of a marriage that has lasted 50 years or more, the question that follows is always, “How did you do it?” I listen very closely when I hear about one of those special marriages. 

I heard someone recently say, “Tie the marriage knot so tight it can’t be untied.” That’s wisdom when it comes to two persons staying together.

So, what are some of those practical, insightful words of wisdom to tie the knot tighter and to grow your marriage to become closer, intimate and stay very much alive? 

1. Serve God together. Make Him first in your lives and in your marriage. Pray together as it leads to a greater level of intimacy.
2. Discover your marriage mission­–the “why” of your marriage.
3. Serve one another. Discover what blesses your life mate and serve them in that area.
4. Find commonality in things to do together. Find fun things that make you laugh together. Maintain a bi-monthly or monthly date night.
5. Be challenged in your marriage. Read a marriage growth book together. Go to a seminar on marriage. Attend a sweetheart banquet.
6. Discover what nourishes your spouse, what their love language is, and pursue those things.
7. Be committed to a local church family where you can serve together and where you can grow and learn together with accountability for your marriage relationship.
8. Maintain your sexual intimacy. Never allow it to be stolen from you. Fight for it.
9. Take time to listen to each other and then reflect upon what you heard so you can also hear each other’s heart.
10. Evaluate your relationship. Ask yourselves where you can grow and how are you doing spiritually, physically, financially and emotionally.

Marriage does not grow on its own. Anything not exercised suffers from atrophy. You are responsible to take the steps and then you will realize your marriage knot growing tighter.

A Thirty Day Devotional adapted from the NEW book: Identity: The Distinctiveness of You – Day 11

I am loved; God’s Son sacrificed Himself for me. I John 4:10

I am born of the imperishable seed of God’s word. I Peter 1:23

You exist because God called you into existence.  You are loved and accepted by Him because He loves and accepts you.  All you have to do is breathe and He is pleased with you.  He says to you today, as He did to His Son over 2,000 years ago, “You are my son/daughter, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.”

Receive these words into your spirit right now, this very moment, because they are truth.  Even if everyone else rejects you, God does not.  He is pleased with you. You cannot earn His pleasure; you already have it.  You cannot earn His love; you already have it.  This is why you exist.  This is how God sees you.

You are not who you think you are.  You are who He says you are!  If you are trying to be who you think others desire you to be, you will never be who He desires you to be.  It is said, “What you don’t know won’t hurt you.”  The truth is that what you do not know from God’s truth and what you don’t apply to your life, what you haven’t heard and what you don’t understand will hurt you severely.

Psychologist and author, Robert McGee said it this way, “Who you think you should be is less than who you already are.”  That statement is worth reading several more times.

To believe anything less than this is to be lied to.  To receive those lies as truth will harm you forever.  Stop living in anything less like hurt, offense, disappointment, rejection.  Start living through a revelation of His love, acceptance and approval of you. Romans 15:7 reveals ever so clearly that Christ accepts you, “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” 

To be accepted for who we are is a human longing. To be accepted by God Himself is supernatural acceptance. We will never find freedom attaching ourselves to rejections of the past, wounds found within our history or present disappointments.  They are not who we are or are becoming.  Never give in to the hurt from others, allowing them to be more powerful than God’s truth.  Never allow others to decide who you are.  Jesus created you for His pleasure and only He knows who you really are.  Only He can fulfill you, complete you and heal you.

Hear Jesus’ prayer for you: 

Father, I want those you have given to me with me where I am, and to see my glory, the glory you have given me because you loved me before the creation of the world.  Righteous Father, though the world does not know you, I know you, and they know that you have sent me.  I have made you known to them, and will continue to make you known in order that the love you have for me may be in them and that I myself may be in them.  (John 17: 24-26

Question for reflection:

Who does God say that you are?

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Why do we tend to think that our present location in marriage is where we’ll stay? It isn’t. We will change and our life mate will change – guaranteed.

Why will we change? We’ll realize that the choices we make on a daily basis will affect us in the future. We’ll learn that when we overcharge our credit card, the consequence will show up in 30 days or less. We’ll discover that the fight we had yesterday without resolve will still be in our midst today in some form. We’ll understand that the differences we have in disciplining our children will be identified and we’ll need to work on uniting our approach.

We’ll do this because we realize that for two to walk together there will need to be agreement. (See Amos 3:3.) Agreement is far more powerful than disagreement. To find agreement as a married couple is like discovering a large check that we forgot to cash and deposit into our account. Agreement is a windfall of moving our marriage forward. 

Agreement in a marriage means we’re in one accord. If you’re unhappy with your present location in marriage, give it some time. Locate the areas of disagreement and then look for the solutions that will bring you and your spouse into agreement. Agreement will move you from your present location in marriage toward your latter years’ destination. 

Picture with your spouse what you desire those latter years to look like. Then dream about the ways and the means to get there. What changes will you need to implement today in order to see tomorrow looking different? 

Where your marriage is located today is not your final destination. There are good days, challenging days and amazing days ahead. Stay the course and keep moving forward in one accord.

While there are many reasons to pay down debt early and to eventually pay off debt, there is a reason that most financial experts do not include in their advice. 

Yes, you will feel a new level of freedom. Yes, you will be able to save more money. And, yes, you will stretch your paycheck much further. But none of these come close to the number one reason to put debt behind you.

Here is the number one reason: you will be able to give more. That’s right. Persons who are debt-free give more to help others. They do not need to consider the question of whether or not they can afford to do so, but rather are waiting to hear about needs they can respond to. 

When money is tight due to excessive credit card payments, car payments or that personal loan, you will struggle to give. Your thoughts will center around what you need rather than what others need.

I recently was privileged to hear a story from a young couple in their twenties. They married and between the two of them had a combined $130,000 in college debt and a car loan. Together they developed a plan to retire this debt. As they prayed and stuck to their plan, they actually became (drum roll here) debt-free within three years! Three years may seem like a long time, but they learned so much about debt, about giving and about the discipline of paying off loans early and exactly how much money it saved them in the long run. 

Perhaps you haven’t thought about the freedom you might feel if you were able to reduce your debt considerably, but I can personally guarantee that you will find certain freedom and realize the fun it is to be able to sow into the needs of others.

“In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’” (Acts 20:35)