This is the nineteenth in a series of what traits to look for in a life mate. While the following sets a high standard, one that perhaps few will initially reach, each area identified is an important character trait to look for and inquire about as you consider a lifelong marriage partner.
19. How does this person view finances and is he/she a good steward of personal wealth? (Continued) How did your family of origin handle finances? Were the bills paid on time? Did your parents incur a lot of debt? Were your parents generous with their money and incorporate a spirit of giving or were they always “tight” with their finances? Did they argue a lot or agree on the use of money? (Ecclesiastes 5:10; Matthew 6:24; I Peter 5:2; Luke 19: 11-27)
Our family of origin helps to mold and to shape who we are. As you look back at your family and how they viewed money, do you see any personal connections as to how you view money? Most likely you see some positives and some negatives. If your family seemed to always struggle with money, your natural reaction will be to look for security from a prospective partner, not wanting them to take unnecessary financial risks. If your family tithed and helped the less fortunate, you will have a completely different perspective about the use of money.
Agreement in the use of money is far more powerful (not to mention life-giving to marriage) than disagreement. When we agree on the use of our money, it releases the blessing of unity. This is illustrated in Luke chapter 19 in the parable of the ten Minas. The servants were told by their master to “put this money to work…” Later the master returned …”to find out what they had gained…” The trustworthy ones did in fact invest the money and realized a gain and were given greater responsibility and authority. They reaped what they sowed. The servant who responded in fear, gained nothing and what he had, was given to the one who gained the most because he acted the most trustworthy.
Is Jesus Lord of your finances? Does He own it all? Are you a trustworthy servant? Do you walk free of the love of money? Before you merge two incomes into one, search God’s word and gain His perspective on finances. It will save you a lot of heart ache.