Is sexual intimacy the most intimate aspect of marriage? Is sex the most intimate act between two human beings? If the answer is “yes,” then social scientists are correct when they conclude that at our very core, we are primarily sexual beings. But, Scripture tells us we are spirit, soul and body (I Thessalonians 5:23). If we were just soul and body, I might be inclined to agree with social scientists. God, however, in creating us in His image added the eternal part of us, the spirit. Therefore, I would conclude that we are primarily spirit, having a soul (will, mind and emotions), all housed on this earth in our temporary vessel, the body. If we are primarily spirit, then our first function, our most important function is to worship God.
What does all this have to do with sexual intimacy and marriage? It is to conclude that sex is NOT the most intimate aspect of marriage. What is then? Seeking the face of God together. Prayer between husband and wife, spirit to spirit, to Holy Spirit is the most intimate thing we can be involved in within the marriage covenant. No wonder so many Christian couples do not pray together. For far too many, it’s way too intimate to fully disclose your heart, speak your deepest desires and blurt out your darkest brokenness. The enemy knows that if we take a step of faith and enter into this closet of prayer intimacy with our life mate, nothing will stop us. When two or three agree… Agreement together in the Spirit is a place of unity, a place of oneness and that place, dear ones, is far more powerful than disagreement.