Did you know that your man is “hardwired” by God with the need to receive respect from his life mate? There is mention of it in the Scripture, but check out the following: Shaunti Feldhahn wrote the book, For Women Only, and relates the fact that men would rather feel unloved than disrespected. In a survey she quotes, 74% of men would rather, “…be alone and unloved than feel inadequate and be disrespected.” So, it goes something like this: if a man feels disrespected, he is most likely going to also feel unloved. Men long for a father’s respect and seek the respect of their children, along with their employer, but the need for respect from their wife trumps them all. Ladies, have you ever noticed how numerous persons can compliment your man, but then he turns to you and asks how you feel he did? He needs your affirming words of respect as his icing on top of the cake and values it far more than any other opinion.
What’s the hesitation? I’ve heard many women say something like this, “When he does something worthy of respect, I will give it to him.” Even though he is created in the image of God, loved by God and already approved of by Him, you feel he must earn it from you? If you could forget about the disappointments you have felt and the offenses that have come your way through him, could you take a step of faith and find ways to express respect? The two of you are one and as you show respect (deserved or not), you will reap the benefits. It may not be immediate and you may receive a quizzical look or two, but the male soul will respond. You have a choice to be your husband’s critic or his greatest fan. (See: Ephesians 5:33; I Timothy 3:4; I Peter 2:17 in the NLT Bible.)