In the book, Sacred Marriage, author Gary Thomas says that God did not give us marriage to make us happy, but to make us more like Him. God’s idea for marriage predates Christianity and goes back to the Garden of Eden. Marriage was an act of creation by God. Adam recognized a need in his life and so did his Creator. God’s solution? The gift of Eve. God created a mate, once again in His image and likeness to be a life partner. It was and is God’s idea for the basis of our society.
Initially, we are attracted to one another by our similarities, but that’s before we say “I do.” Ninety days into the marriage we realize we married someone who is not like us and that’s God’s story. It is God’s story to begin to hold us together through our differences. You see, Mary is what I am not and I am what Mary is not. But, together, we make an amazing team. Under the New Covenant, as men, we are called to reflect Christ to our wives. Is there a resemblance men? As women, you are to reflect the Christ found within your husband. If we are not working toward becoming more like Christ, then whose image will we reflect? There is no greater mirror of who you are than your spouse.