The mystery of two becoming one begins with a confession of two simple words, “I do.” After almost 38 years of marriage, Mary and I “still do.” This past Easter Sunday I watched as my mother and father-in-law held hands to pray over their meal together. After 71 years of marriage, they “still do.” Little did we understand those two, almost insignificant, words at our marriage ceremony, but here’s a bit of insight into what they actually mean or will mean when you speak them.
Prior to the wedding ceremony, both the man and the woman are under the authority of another(s) – their parents. When saying, “I do,” there is an exchange of authority in order to leave and cleave. The father and mother give their daughter away and there is a name change. There is an exchange of possessions. What is his is now also hers and what is hers becomes his. There is a releasing of singleness so that in mind, body, soul and spirit two become one. All past dating relationships are left in order to cling to this one and only this one. There is a new sense of responsibility for another. There is a new sense of submission and giving of oneself for another. Two now embrace all expenses and debt brought into the marriage. There are many additional family and friend relationships taken on. Finally, while perhaps not realized at the time, two very different people will grow and change over the course of time as they live life and walk out those two simple words, “I do.”
Why don’t you send your spouse a card today and let them know you “still do.”