In two weeks I have the privilege of walking my baby girl down the aisle and then officiating the wedding ceremony. While I felt so honored to be asked to perform the wedding, I now wonder about my sanity in agreeing to do it. Don’t get me wrong, I love the idea, but am now the one with “cold feet” and wondering how I will get through it emotionally. How do you “give away” your only daughter, the baby in the family? She is about to spend more time married, with another man, than she ever spent with me, her father, growing up – it’s not fair.
I loved the growing up years from infancy on. I was elated watching her first steps and missing her the moment she went off to kindergarten. I loved teaching her to ride a bicycle and playing softball in the front yard. Her acting career in high school, although short-lived, was moments in time of sheer pride. Teaching her to drive a car, a five speed, was exhilarating in more ways than one. Sending her off to college four hours from her home…never easy. Helping her move to Washington, DC for her first “real” job felt awkward at best.
But soon I will walk her down the aisle and then another man will walk her away from me. There will be an exchange of authority, of leadership, of responsibility and another will be “laying down his life.” I would do it all over again, from birth forward. I would change some things, but not much. I would not trade the struggles and tears, the laughter and joys for anything. It is why God gave her to me (us) – to give her away, first to Him and then to His man for her. It is why I/we spent thousands of hours training her and thousands of dollars raising her. Brooke Megan, you are an amazing woman of God; you are a delight to my very soul. “…Our daughters will be like pillars carved to adorn a palace.” (Ps. 144:12)
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