God loves teams. The very first team was the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Adam and Eve were created to be a team of two and then as children were born, a family team. God encouraged teams to help Moses of tens, hundreds and thousands. Jesus had a team of twelve and an even closer team of three. Many of us love team sports. Teams work together for a common goal through common values, common methods and a common plan.
When a team begins to fight with or pick on one another, they defeat themselves. Something I call the Terrell Owens Syndrome is when a team member begins to see himself as more valuable than his teammates. These types of thoughts eventually lead him to feeling superior by thinking the team needs him, but he doesn’t need the team. Team members watch each other’s backs. (Think Michael Oher when he was learning the game of football portrayed in the movie Blind Side.) All teams have their internal differences, but they cannot hold on to these or use them against team members or they will eventually defeat themselves.
If your marriage were a professional doubles tennis team, what would need to change in order for you to be in sync on the court? If you were a professional dance team, how would you anticipate your partner’s next move in order to move with him? Surely two minds are better than one and couples who have successfully incorporated common values, methods and plans will realize a greater sense of team.