I could barely believe the conversation that was going on in front of me. It was impossible not to hear. The international airline lounge was packed with weary travelers and I needed to stay put while waiting for my flight. I’ll get back to this story later and tell you about the specifics of this conversation, but first let’s consider a hard question.
How committed are you to your marriage? I mean, what would it take to distract you from marital fidelity? That’s a terrible question to consider isn’t it? But, perhaps in this day, it’s an appropriate question. If the opportunity was presented (and it just might one day), what boundaries do you have in place for your marriage and how would you fend it off?
As you consider that question, let me take you back to the intimate and inappropriate conversation I was overhearing.
It all started innocently enough with, “Who do you work for and…where are you flying to?” It progressed with similar lines of conversation and politeness. But somewhere in the middle of their conversing, the tone of voice underwent a change and the questions became more personal and intimate as they ‘tested’ one another. Each question became closer to the edge and somewhere in this diatribe, it just started to become more relational and motivated with questions like, “I’m married, how long are you married?” And then the other replied, “I’m recently divorced.” I noticed their bodies physically began to turn toward one another in order to have eye-to-eye contact. It wasn’t long until I heard her say, “I don’t normally do this, but here is my card with my personal contact information on the back.” The middle-aged man replied with, “I wouldn’t normally take your card, but there have been some struggles in our marriage…”
I was stunned and speechless and wanted to scream, “Run, oh silly man…what are you doing right now to yourself, to this woman, to your family? Come to your senses and close your heart to this.”
Please go back to the question above and answer it for yourself. Discuss your boundaries with your spouse and a means of accountability if you find yourself coming near this situation. Acting on the offense versus being caught off guard is an appropriate present response.
Keep a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house…At the end of your life you will groan…Drink water from your own cistern…But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself. (Proverbs 5:8,11,15 & 6:32)