I am not totally sure why comparison is so often our human go-to mode.
I’m guessing the experts would have a lot to say on the subject, but the Bible has something to say as well. It states, “We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.” (II Cor. 10:12) Pretty straightforward, eh?
Some years ago I wrote a tract about developing a child’s self-esteem and started out with the story of Maggie. I observed that Maggie never combed her hair, brushed her teeth, looked in a mirror or compared herself with anyone. She was our Labrador Retriever whose full name was Sweet Magnolia of Pheasant Hills, aka Maggie. She knew who she was, who she was created to be and she knew our unconditional love and acceptance of her. Perhaps that’s what’s missing in our lives…knowing who we are, what we’re created for and that we’re all unconditionally loved and approved of by our Father in heaven.
The Bible says that comparison is unwise. Why? When we compare ourselves to someone else we typically come up short or proud, insignificant or feeling better than another. Obviously these outcomes are unproductive and self-deprecating. Comparison is often full of feeling less than, not measuring up or lacking in performance. Or, it’s full of pride, feeling better than and viewing oneself as more significant than others by out performing. Crazy thing is it’s all within our own minds.
If you have children help them to not compare themselves. Children have their own unique gifts and talents. Do not make performance the determining factor of your love, acceptance and approval of them. Never compare them with their sibling. Comparison is full of critical judgment and will eventually kill their creativity.
Ask God to help you hear your own thoughts of comparison and allow Him to speak truth-filled words over you rather than your own negative or pride-filled mental dialogue. I wrote another prayer tract called, Who I am in Christ and it is filled with the truth of scripture to help you know whose you are and why you exist so that comparison can end once and for all.