Recently we took our five-year-old grandson with us for a weekend away. It wasn’t uncommon for him to say, “I’m bored” or “This is boring.” I forgot how much entertainment a young child needs. It makes me think about how boring and predictable our marriages can become. So much of life is routine oriented, repeated each and every day like that old movie, Groundhog Day starring Bill Murray.
Then again, I also realize some of us prefer routine, it’s comfortable and safe for us. Still others desire a change of routine, something new and exciting. All too often the one is married to the other and I think it could be a God-ordained union. Each marriage needs the stability of a routine and each marriage needs pushed toward something new and exciting.
Recently Mary and I celebrated 44 years of marriage. Quite honestly, there have been those
“long, flat roads” as author Gray Thomas puts it. But it takes those to appreciate the new and exciting times in marriage. We did a cruise for the first-time last year; that was new and exciting. This year we went to San Diego for a “just us” vacation. That was awesome.
But you know what? Most everything in between those times was typical routine for us and we loved that too. Perhaps the key is to recognize, be aware of our long, flat stretches and then introduce something new and exciting in between.