As a kid I lived in insecurity. I was insecure in school, in relationships, in trying new things and in my family relationships. Insecurity is defined as instability, self-doubt and a lack of self-confidence. That was me. There were plenty of reasons for my insecurity, but at the time it was just life and trying to grow up.
Insecurity takes over your life. Everything is filtered through those insecure thoughts and beliefs. We reinforce our insecurities through our self-talk every waking hour. I can remember climbing up the ladder at the local lake to attempt to go down the slide and into the water. It was high; at least it felt that way. I reached the top and froze. I had to go back down the ladder. Insecurity led to fear and fear overcame my ability to try something new.
I suppose we grow out of many of our insecurities, but there are those relational ones that seem to forever stick with us. Author Les Parrott once wrote, “If you try to find intimacy with another person before a sense of wholeness on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.” Meaning, insecurity within oneself creates a sense of “un-wholeness,” so we then attempt to find wholeness in others. Those types of relationships go south quickly because no one on this earth can provide the security and wholeness we are longing for.
Jesus once approached a woman at a well that was not married, but He told her she had had five husbands in the past. Jesus identified the longing in her heart to be whole and He let her know that another husband would not do that for her. His answer: to draw living water from Him – a spring of eternal life. His answer to this woman’s insecurities, her longing to find relational fulfillment in men and her insatiable desire for wholeness was met in one encounter with the Messiah.
Have you given Him your insecurities and attempts to find wholeness in others? Here are some truths to help you do just that.
You are highly esteemed – Daniel 9:23
You are God’s child – I John 3:2
You are justified from all things – Acts 13:39
You are the righteousness of God – II Corinthians 5:21
You are free from condemnation – Romans 8:1
You are free from your past – Philippians 3:13
You are a new creature – II Corinthians 5:17