This is a second entry in a series of what traits to look for in a life mate. While the following sets a high standard, one that perhaps few will initially reach, each area identified is an important character trait to look for and inquire about as you consider a lifelong marriage partner.
2. Does this person love and accept you as you are? Do you get the feeling at times that he/she is attempting to change you? Does he/she accept those physical and personality traits with which you were born, or do you feel an underlying need to change yourself to try to please him/her? While love is not blind, it accepts what cannot be changed and gives grace for what can be changed. Romans 15: 7 says, “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” Christ has accepted you as you are. You need not try to change yourself to be accepted, let Him do the changing for He has already accepted you. You cannot earn His acceptance or His approval because you already have it… before you do anything.
When Jesus was being water baptized by John, the Father spoke from heaven and said, “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.” God spoke this to Jesus before His public ministry began. What words of affirmation; what words of acceptance. God says those same words to you. You cannot earn His approval and you need not earn the approval of another. The God of the universe, the King of Kings has already accepted you. If you get the feeling that the one you are dating is trying to change you into someone else, take an immediate step back and ask God what He wants. You are His son/daughter and with you He is well pleased.
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Knowing who you are in Christ is key. And being humble and mindful to the leading of the Holy Spirit will continue to mold you as life goes along. Love this blog!!
This was one of the things that was huge for me in choosing Rick. When it came to talking about whether or not we should proceed in our relationship I laid out a list of reasons why I felt he should “run away”. When his response was to stay and again asking me to choose to move forward in relationship, I realized he just might be a keeper.