This is the eight in a series of what traits to look for in a life mate. While the following sets a high standard, one that perhaps few will initially reach, each area identified is an important character trait to look for and inquire about as you consider a lifelong marriage partner.
8. Does this person walk in accountability? Does this person have a mentoring relationship with a pastor or other spiritual leader, someone they have given authority to speak into his/her life, to provide challenge and correction? Can you speak into his/her life freely and can this person receive your input? Is this person accountable with personal possessions, finances and their spiritual disciplines? Do you feel any ongoing resistance when it comes to the discipline of accountability or submission to spiritual authority? (Hebrews 4:13)
Accountability says a lot about character and maturity. It says that this person is not wanting to hide anything before God and man. They are open to input and correction. No one is perfect and each one of us need spiritual mothers and fathers to speak into our lives. While receiving accountability, is this person actively mentoring others? Are they sowing into others what they themselves are receiving? If we appreciate spiritual authority in our lives as a single person, we will appreciate it even more as a married person. Who is loving you enough to speak the truth into your life, providing accountability and correction?