We were born in a Genesis three world, the world of fallen natures. It is all we know. You and I have never experienced what God originally intended for us as individuals, as married couples and as families. What God designed was without sin and without curse. We do not know a curse-free world. Our marriages have never experienced such freedom as walking with God hand in hand in the garden He planted.
But what we do have is the curse breaker, Jesus. Galatians 3: 13 says, “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, it is written: ‘Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.’” In Jeff VanVonderen’s book, Families Where Grace is in Place, he makes the statement, “In a curse-full marriage, one partner makes demands on the other as if he/she were the source rather than a resource.” He then states the ingredients to a curse-filled relationship as controlling, unforgiving, reactive, shaming and ego-driven. If Jesus took these curse-filled areas to the cross, then we do not need to walk in them. Marriage issues are individual issues. As you and I are individually healed by the Curse Breaker, we will notice a healed marriage to follow.