When is the last time you thanked your wife for doing the laundry or your husband for washing the car? By the way, have you spoken a word of thanks to your husband for running the vacuum cleaner or your wife for balancing the checkbook? One day I was driving home from my office and the Lord reminded me of I Timothy 6: 6, “But godliness with contentment is great gain.” When discontent surfaces in our spirit toward our spouse, we can quickly lose thankfulness. We focus on all the things our spouse is not doing or expectations that are unmet rather than focusing on all the good things they are accomplishing. Further, until we reach contentment in our own life, we’ll experience discontent creeping in toward others.
Why do we measure personal contentment by what we expect from others? For example, I have heard parents say, “I’ll be content when this kid gets out of diapers or when he goes to school or when she graduates or…” When I was reminded of that verse in I Timothy on my drive home, I sensed that God was saying, “Contentment is NOW, not WHEN _________.” (You can fill in the blank.) If I am thankful for my wife and the many things she does to care for our marriage now, then I will not waste time in discontent and thanklessness, both of which are extremely unproductive. Thankfulness in our marriages is contagious, especially when expressed for the many daily routine tasks.