Number 7: Playing Together
What is your favorite fun thing to do together as a couple? When is the last time you participated in that area of fun? Couples know how to do fun when dating, e.g., laughing together, growing in friendship and relating at that relaxed level of comfort over a milkshake or a latte. What happens after we say “I do?” All too often we allow fun to take a back seat to the more “serious” issues in the relationship. Proverbs tells us that laughter is like a medicine (Proverbs 17:22). Laughter has within it medicinal purposes and it’s given to us as a gift of God. If there was an instrument called the “fun-o-meter” and the number 10 was fun at its best, exactly where would your relationship find itself today?
Have you been able to slow down enough to simply take a walk and hold hands, perhaps taking a few moments to pray and converse? Matthew 13, verse one, states, “That same day Jesus went out of the house and sat by the lake.” When is the last time you left your house (your responsibilities) and sat by the lake with your lover? Vacations are great moments for fun connections, but vacations come once or twice a year. Take a moment to think of some of the things you once did and the things that you would like to do that are fun for you as a couple. Purpose in your heart to schedule times of fun together and you will find a wonderful connection that lacks criticism and promotes healthy, life-building, laughter-filled relationship.