Number eight: Every Marriage Needs a Mission
God gave Adam and Eve a mission, to tend the garden together. He gave Nehemiah a mission to rebuild destroyed and burnt walls. He gave Peter and Paul a similar mission to two different people groups. Jesus had a mission to fulfill from His Father and then He asked us to join Him in the great co-mission. Wouldn’t it seem reasonable that God has a mission for every married couple? Unfortunately, many marriages today lack a cooperative mission. The husband is doing his thing with a teen boys Sunday school class and his wife is meeting with the woman’s missionary support team. However, if God has called you together, He has purpose and mission in that call. Even to operate a small business, a couple must be in agreement and flow together in a cooperative mission.
That is where Ephesians 5 comes in when it tells us to submit to one another and then for wives to submit to husbands. That word submission in the Greek is Hupo Tasso and it means to arrange under toward a mission. We know the prefix “sub” in the word submission means under, i.e., under the mission. So, the question one must ask when it comes to wives submitting is: what’s the mission? What is she submitting to? It is certainly not every selfish wish and whim of the leader. Let me paint a picture for you as I see it.
Every train has and is in total need of a track. Which one is more important, the track or the train? Neither is more important, the one fails without the other. The train’s mission is completed by the direction and support of the track. Mary and I first wrote our own mission statement for our marriage and family more than 15 years ago. We have seen many areas fulfilled and have rewritten our statement numerous times, but our mission statement for our call together still exists. We totally and fully believe that every marriage needs a mission. Do yourselves a favor and write your marriage mission statement together as soon as you can, pray over it and review it at least annually. When you find this agreement in couple mission, you’ll also realize agreement in many other areas of marriage.