Number nine: Be Thankful
Does your spouse care for your wash? Who maintains your car? Which one of you mows the lawn? Who cleans the bathrooms? And whose job is it to balance the check book and pay the bills? These are a few of the mundane, everyday, thankless and boring duties of life. When is the last time you thanked your spouse for doing one of those jobs? I mean really and truly went to them and said, “You know, I never run out of socks because some how they go from the wash basket back into my drawer clean and smelling fresh. I do not know how you keep up with it all, but thank you.” Or, “I am so thankful that you take the time to maintain our vehicle. Today I saw someone along the road broken down and thought of you. I need to thank you for that.”
When discontent surfaces in our lives toward our spouse we lose thankfulness. We begin to focus on the things he or she is not doing and forget to give praise for the things they are doing. Our expectations are unmet and we let them know it. Why do we measure personal contentment in our life by what we expect from others? For example, I have heard couples make statements like, “I’ll be content when he starts listening to me” or “I’ll be content when she begins to appreciate what I do for her.” I Timothy 6:6 states, “But godliness with contentment is great gain.” We will never be content when _________ happens, but we can choose to be content now even if what we expect is not happening.
If I am thankful for my wife and the many things she does to care for our marriage now, then I will not waste time in discontent and thanklessness, both of which are extremely unproductive. Thankfulness in our marriage is actually contagious, especially when expressed for the many daily and routine tasks. By the way, thank you for taking the time to read this. :)