It is truly unfortunate that the word submission conjures up such strong feelings especially among North American women. It really should not. Recently, I was teaching in a room with three different races present and found that the expressions and beliefs about the topic of submission were quite varied and typically non-biblical. Even mentioning the word seemed to send shudders up the spines of those godly ladies. Why? Most women view submission as a subservient existence cowering to a man’s latest whim and wish. Do you seriously think that was the meaning of submission in Ephesians five? When Paul asked women to submit to their husbands do you think for a moment he was instructing you to grovel at your husband’s feet and shout “immediately sir” to every request?
The Greek word is Hupo Tasso and it was a military term, which meant to “arrange under.” It literally has to do with leading the troops toward a mission. Our English word, submission has a prefix (sub) that means “under.” So, the word would best be defined as, “under the mission.” Here’s the biggest question to consider, “Husbands, what’s the mission?” If you and your spouse have not identified the mission(s) of your marriage, then what may I ask are you submitting to? If submission literally means under the mission, you must hear from God, define the mission and write it down in the form of a mission statement. God gave Adam and Eve, the first couple on the earth, a very clear mission. What mission has He given to you and your spouse? We’ll work on building that statement in the future.