Several weeks ago I had the privilege of walking my baby girl down the aisle and then doing an about-face and performing the marriage ceremony. It was a sacred, holy and God-honoring time. My biggest fear? Tears. How do you look at your daughter of 28 years and perform the ceremony to give her “away?” As I started by sharing some personal stories, we both cried. But then I had the privilege of speaking a ten-minute message to this husband and wife to be.
I take personal issue with long and boring wedding messages that are more about the messenger than the couple receiving the message. I decided that four quick points would suffice (how many listeners would remember even one of them?). 1. Marriage is a creation act of God; it’s from the beginning. Therefore, it precedes Christianity by a few thousand years (Genesis 2:24). That said, Christ agreed with this creation act, as the New Covenant was about to unfold, one man with one woman – a holy union (Matthew 19:4-6). 2. The purpose of marriage is not to have my needs met or even marrying the right person. The purpose of marriage is about becoming the right person, a Christ-like person, as the challenges of married life grow us up. 3. The “why” of marriage is our personal marriage mission statement. As God had a mission in sending His Son, we too have a mission in marriage. 4. Always, always, always remember the six most important words in marriage, “I am sorry, I was wrong.” And, consider making it nine words with the addition of: “Please forgive me.” Congratulations my beautiful one.