Author Gary Thomas once proposed this scenario, “You may opt for a divorce, but you cannot ever engage in sex again with anyone else for the rest of your life.” The obvious question that would follow would be just how many couples would actually divorce? Perhaps some women, but I am guessing very few men. I remember studying divorce and remarriage from every angle for our book, Called Together. We wanted to write what was biblically correct, while at the same time not provoke any unnecessary pain in those who have been through such devastation.
What I discovered was interesting; coming to the conclusion that while not every divorce was sinful, each one was the result of sin. And I also discovered that there was a certain divorce labeled as nonbiblical in which the two parties were to remain nonsexual by now remaining unmarried for the rest of their lives. (see I Corinthians 7:10-11) Jesus’ personal stand on divorce can be found in Mark 10: 1-12. I’ll let you read it and come to your own conclusions. God’s first desire is always reconciliation, but within those verses found in the book of Mark, Jesus did tell us that divorce was not from the beginning.
For those of you that have been through this heart wrenching experience, grace to you. For those of you contemplating divorce, please reconsider and ask God for a path to reconciliation if at all possible.