I recently asked a very godly woman what makes her feel secure in her marriage.  She shared these thirteen things about her husband:

1. My husband loves and prioritizes God as #1 in his life.
2. My husband spends time daily with his Savior in the Bible and in prayer.
3. My husband is committed to me, to our marriage; he speaks this regularly and often tells me that he loves me.
4. I have a home that is safe for my children, others and me. My husband built this home with his own hands and labor of love and there is a spirit of peace that resides in our home.
5. My husband has lived by Biblical financial values and made sure that we are not in debt; all the while, investing into our future. Our bills are paid and we have a savings account.
6. My husband affirms me – my gifts, my passions and my contributions. He affirms my work, my person and my beauty.
7. My husband has always believed in me, encouraged me and encouraged the gifts that God has placed in my life.
8. I can truly trust my husband because he incorporates strict codes of behavior and boundaries concerning relationship with the opposite sex.
9. My husband is faithful with his eyes – he does not view pornography, but uses self-control and is honorable.
10. He is really good with people and I trust him to speak life, wisdom and grace-filled counsel.
11. He prays with me and for me.
12. He encourages me to hear God for myself.
13. He encourages me to express my gift of giving.

What would your wife share if you asked her what helps her feel secure within your marriage? Better yet, go out on a date and ask that very question.