Does it sound odd to say or admit that our marriage has a relationship with money? There is this amazing verse in the Bible that says, “But godliness with contentment is great gain.” Most couples believe that if they had more money they would be more content. From that juncture, we can find ourselves fighting and arguing over money all too often. But money in and of itself doesn’t bring contentment
Contentment is a state of the heart, mind and the spirit and not our level of income or the amount of savings we have accumulated. Contentment certainly isn’t generated by the amount of stuff we collect. Our possessions might bring convenience, but not contentment. We can purchase a new car, but sure enough a new and improved model is just around the corner, making ours feel old and outdated.
Being content means we are satisfied, we are at ease of mind. Our relationship as a couple with money can bring contentment or take us to discontent. In reality, we can become consumed with the need for more. Contentment, the scripture relates, is generated by godliness. Godliness is conforming to the desires of God. And when God says He will meet all of our needs according to His riches, we can stop striving, stop living in discontent and begin being at ease with one another and ourselves.
How else can we arrive at contentment over finances in our marriage? Here are five tips:
- Create a budget and follow it.
- Have a weekly money date and talk about your finances openly without argument.
- Give one another a spending allowance and be generous.
- Stop the name calling like “Spender” or “Tight wad.”
- Pray over your finances regularly.
If we connect lasting happiness with the accumulation of money or things, our happiness will always be short-lived. If we connect happiness with godliness we will find ourselves becoming all the more satisfied with where we are financially and trusting God for where He desires to take us.
I just love this wisdom, “Keep yourselves free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Hebrews 13: 5)