There is a truth revealed concerning child rearing in I Samuel chapter eight in the Old Testament. Samuel was growing quite old so he appointed his sons as judges over Israel. “But his sons did not walk in his ways. They turned aside after dishonest gain and accepted bribes and perverted justice.” (I Samuel 8:3) It was after this that Israel desired a king rather than being ruled by a judge.
So often blame is placed upon Samuel for how his sons carried out their new-found power. Had Samuel failed as a father? The scripture does not indicate that he did. Samuel’s sons made their own choice and Samuel was not faulted for those choices.
I have seen difficult children come from great families and great children come from difficult families. We like to think there is a guarantee, but at the same time, I have never met a parent with adult children that said there is a guarantee our children will walk as we’ve trained them to.
Our children, given the truth of God’s word, still live with freedom of choice and free will. Can we as parents be good enough parents that somehow God is beholden to, indebted to go against their own will? As well, the opposite is also true. We, as parents can mess up and yet our Father is generously compassionate and merciful beyond anything deserved.
If your children are not walking as you expected then pray, ask God and do not walk in condemnation and failure. Rather, walk in faith.