So often marriage is like a mirror and we get to see our real self through the reflections of our life mate. After all, who knows you better than your spouse? Who better to reflect back to you the image you are projecting?
All too often we become defensive, insecure or are in denial about these areas in our lives. We can hide them for some time, but eventually they will surface. When we lose our focus, lose our cool or lose our patience, it can become too much of a temptation to allow the real us to surface. We each have our weaknesses and when they are revealed, we have options.
Those options include: to run, hide, make excuses, blame others or face the weaknesses squarely in the eye. Many marriages separate and spouses run from their exposed weaknesses, but for those who are willing to maturely confess them, remain humble, remain teachable and accountable, there is great hope.
What we can do is to use the revelation of our shortcomings to allow God to change that area of our life. Confession and humility are powerful when it comes to change. Pride, on the other hand, will take us toward a greater fall.
A number of years ago we worked with a couple who struggled with financial agreement. It seems the wife had created excessive consumer debt. They asked for our help, humbled themselves, confessed wrongdoing and started on the path of healing their trust issues and then their budget changes. It could have been far worse if they would have not sought help, not confessed and not humbled themselves toward change.
Are you running from your marriage weaknesses? There is a better way.