Marriage, Premarital, Singles

Finding a Life Mate: The Character Traits Worth Looking For #4

This is the fourth in a series of what traits to look for in a life mate.  While the following sets a high standard, one that perhaps few will initially reach, each area identified is an important character trait to look for and inquire about as you consider a lifelong marriage partner.

4. What is this person’s life call or mission?  God has called each of us to specific life mission and He gives gifts to help complete this mission.  While this call can change and evolve, does this person understand his/her own personal mission?  We are each born with purpose, but when we are born again, I believe we find our passion.  What is this person’s passion in life and how does it match with your passion?  If God is calling two to become one, then He is recognizing similar life calls that will complement one another.

What do I mean?  I live in a farming community in Pennsylvania.  If a young man is desiring to be a farmer, then a young wife needs to not only understand that call, believe in that call as a business and ministry, but be willing to come alongside her husband and be a farmer as well.  She needs to be willing to embrace the smell and the flies in her kitchen.  If a young lady has a passion and is called to oversees missions, then a young man who she is desiring to become one with will need to share in that call.  It does not mean we lose our individuality, but are we agreeing to the mission and can that  mission become a co-mission?  Are the two compatible or similar enough to merge into one?  Adam and Eve were given a co-mission, to tend the garden.  (Genesis 2:8, 15, 18)  The Father will do the same for you.  Too many marriages today haven’t a clue as to why they are together.  Could it be that they have not discovered their mission together?


5 thoughts on “Finding a Life Mate: The Character Traits Worth Looking For #4

  1. Errol Griffith says:

    Thanks Steve!

    I just read your blogs. I totally agree with what you have written. I thought it great that you started with the greatest commandment in your first three and your fourth was on life mission and purpose.

    Having the phenomenal grace and blessing of being married, for soon to be fourteen years, to the Eve that God chose for me. I have been learning how to love my wife during these years. Your blogs are in complete alignment with what God has been teaching me, and what I have been seeking to pass on to others.

    I encourage all prospective couples to not compromise in seeking to apply these teachings in their relationships. To those already married, no matter what has transpired in your relationship to date, seek to put these teachings into practice.

    God bless


  2. lee dematos says:

    I thank God for a mens breakfast with you Steve in Agawam Ma. in 2003. It so chalenged me to be a better husband, knowing that I’ll have to give an account to the Lord for what I’ve been given. And Teresa is quite a gift. The Lord used you to raise the bar in my life as a husband , father, friend, and now pastor. Thank you Steve for all you’ve imparted into my legacy.


  3. Martin says:

    Elizabeth and I like reading your blog! We will pass it on to our friends who are searching and trying to find right partners for their future! Keep it flowing…good and healthy stuff!


  4. Sheila says:

    Steve, my parents sent me the link to this blog series, and it blessed me. I am 27 and still single because God impressed upon my heart at a young age to wait for a man who shares the call/mission He placed within me. I have dated young men who met some of the other qualifications but their MISSION was different. I had to end the relationships because I knew I could not compromise the purpose of God for me. So I continue to walk by faith as I wait for my life partner and count Him faithful who gave me those desires. Thank you for co-authoring with the Holy Spirit.


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